I have heard of stories about mom eventually deciding to be a SAHM (Stay at Home Mom) for practical reasons – like for instance, even if she is working, her salary may just be enough to pay the day care bills. Point taken, but the thing is, would have she left the workforce by choice?
Then there are those who felt obliged to become a SAHM because they feel guilty that other people will be raising their kids. But to be honest, of course, you’ll be raising your kids – you will need the help (either a nanny or day care centers or your mom or your in-laws) but you will be raising your own kids.
Although it’s very understandable for working moms to miss this point because they are so occupied with their career or exhausted from working that by the time their turn with the kids comes, all they wanted to do is glue them in front of the TV or put them to bed. Hence, they feel like they couldn’t do both and opt to be a stay at home – even if they originally wanted to be the working girl.
A mother ‘stuck’ at home
The problem with the situations mentioned above is that, eventually the child or the kids are left with a mom that is depressed, frustrated and uninspired. I guess the whole point of being with the kids –raising them yourself, nurturing them – has taken a different turn.
The child or children would likely develop emotional or psychological problems – feeling unworthy or undeserving or feel like they are a nuisance that is causing their mother’s heartbreak. And no children should be made to feel that way.
A mother could easily feel stuck at home – taking care of the kids and managing the house. Feeling small about the fact that she’s no longer the working woman she used to be and left with the ‘mundane’ task that she felt she’s over qualified to do.
Of course, there’s nothing mundane about being a SAHM. It is also called work – a 24/7 work…without a salary – because it’s priceless! So, being a stay at home mom is nothing short of being noble.
Again, it’s understandable why SAHMs are feeling the opposite. The society has different notions about SAHMs in general. And peers are not making it any easier. Hence, more of the pressure is coming from outside factors. It’s not even a question of whether you would like to raise your kids or not. Of course you would like to do that, but, there’s always a ‘but’ somewhere there.
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How blogging helps a SAHM
If one ultimately decides to be a stay at home mom it has to be because that is where her innermost dreams and hopes and passions lie. Otherwise, she has to muster the strength to decide to continue working and leave the child to a day care, to a nanny or a sitter.
The reality though is that it’s NOT an easy decision to make. It’s not exactly a ‘yes or no’ option.
The good thing is that technology has made it possible for SAHMs of today to have a platform where they can use not just for hobby or to release the tension and bottled-up emotions but also to revive their other passions in life.
Blogging provides a SAHM the platform where she can share her passions to other people – either if it’s about the career she used to have – teacher, nurse, realtor, and others, or it’s about that one thing that she has always dreamed about – being a green activist, improving cupcake recipes, creating awareness about organic food for example or humane treatment of animals, the list could go on and on.
Suffice to say that blogging is empowering SAHMs!
It’s been said time and again that journaling helps our personal development, and blogging can be your own take at journaling – and more!
In blogging, you can affect other people’s lives by serving as an inspiration or a motivation. You can also turn blogging into a business to give you that extra income that you can contribute to your family’s finances or to start your own charity works.
The possibilities are endless, and the best part of it all is that through blogging you can survive being a stay at home mom – a SAHM that is fulfilled, dignified and happy.
To work or not to work
There is no definite answer to this; it will always come down to what you want. Of course the children are the priority, but it’s the very reason why it has to come down to YOU, you have to know where your innermost dreams and hopes and passions lie.