Being told that you’re a Super Mom is perhaps every mother’s dream (I know there are those who’d prefer to be the cool mom instead – I actually prefer to be both!), but how exactly do you become one?
Others may think of a super mom as someone who simply have it together – squeaky clean house, well-behaved kids, a career perhaps, or a working mom on top of the gazillion task at home. Now that sounds very ideal – you’re pretty rocking it if you can do all these, right?
Well, the truth of the matter is that super moms were once humans, too. You know, before the super-ness and all that stuff. I say a super mom is someone who perseveres, someone that is resilient, someone who’s not afraid to make changes if she has to.
Messy, Wacky, Loud
Sure, we all want a regally clean and orderly house, but do a super mom ceases to become one simply because she misses a few spots? Or because the kids’ toys are on the floor? Or because the towels are damp and not properly hanged in the bathroom? One thing is for sure, if you have kids, it could get really messy; in fact it’s bound to happen! After all, the most fun you’ll have with your kids is when things are messy, the messier, the better – arts and crafts and food and stuff, right?
Now, what about raising kids? Do we really have a manual for this? You can always heed your own mom’s advice or your friends’ advice…perhaps even use a trick or two from those reality shows. But kids are simply unique – that I’m pretty sure about. You can’t force them to fit into a certain mold. You have to be open with different parenting style that will work best for your child.
Sure, you wanted your son or daughter to be super behaved, well-mannered and all that, but barking orders every couple of second is not an assurance that they will do what they’re being told.
You may say that you want to be the cool mom and just let them do whatever they want – give them the freedom to become who they are. Sure, that’s cool, too. But that could get tricky as well. For one, they’re kids, they need rules, in as much as they think otherwise – they want rules.
At the end of the day we want nothing but the best for them. We’re ultimately the ones to decide if our parenting style is working for their own good (and not just so we could project an image of some sort).
I say, a super mom needs to be okay with changes, with variations and with a little experimentation as well when it comes to child rearing. A super mom is willing to accept when something is not working for the child – even if it does make you look so cool. After all, mother knows best, right? Hmmm, let’s just say, we all try to know what’s best and we try to give it our best.
Job: Professional MOM
Does your merit of being a super mom lessens because you’re not working aka ‘stay at home mom’? Of course not!!! People have different opinions about being a stay at home mom – there are even those who would question the difficulty of staying at home when you’re literally ‘just’ at home? Well, let’s just say, they simply don’t know what they’re talking about. They probably should try it and themselves and then perhaps then they’ll be more considerate next time.
Being a SAHM is no joke. There are those who simply knew that they wanted to do it, be a SAHM. Then there are those that under some circumstances would have to become one. Then there are still those who feel like there are really no other choices. Granted, whatever your case may be – being a SAHM is not a walk in the park. It’s hard, yes, but it’s very rewarding as well.
You earned your right to be called the super mom if you can truly embrace being a SAHM – forget the haters, I’m pretty sure they have their own issues themselves, lol!
You’re a WAHM, are you a super mom then?
Of course, we also have the ‘work at home moms,’ mothers who can still balance house chores, child rearing and working. That will be pretty awesome if you can truly manage all these. But let’s not forget about the reality that sometimes, it may be true that you’re working at home but you’re mind isn’t really at home.
There are WAHMs who are so absorbed and stressed out with their work that they have completely forgotten the whole idea of working at home is to be actually ‘home’ with the kids. It’s very tricky right? You might think you’re a super mom since after all you’re working at home – well, not quite the case when you’re merely using your home as an office. Especially when you started seeing your kids as housemates who pretty much fend for themselves while you work, work, and work some more.
Again, to become a super mom, you have to be open with changes – be willing to work a ‘workable’ schedule that will suit your being a mother and being a working mom. You have to persevere – it may seem hard or uncomfortable or impossible but nevertheless, try. You have to be resilient – bad days will happen, sometimes more often than we would expect it, but then again shake it off and move on – just keep pushing, keep trying.