How to Become the Super Mom!

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Being told that you’re a Super Mom is perhaps every mother’s dream (I know there are those who’d prefer to be the cool mom instead – I actually prefer to be both!), but how exactly do you become one?

Others may think of a super mom as someone who simply have it together – squeaky clean house, well-behaved kids, a career perhaps, or a working mom on top of the gazillion task at home. Now that sounds very ideal – you’re pretty rocking it if you can do all these, right?

Well, the truth of the matter is that super moms were once humans, too.  You know, before the super-ness and all that stuff. I say a super mom is someone who perseveres, someone that is resilient, someone who’s not afraid to make changes if she has to.

Messy, Wacky, Loud

Sure, we all want a regally clean and orderly house, but do a super mom ceases to become one simply because she misses a few spots?  Or because the kids’ toys are on the floor?  Or because the towels are damp and not properly hanged in the bathroom?  One thing is for sure, if you have kids, it could get really messy; in fact it’s bound to happen!  After all, the most fun you’ll have with your kids is when things are messy, the messier, the better – arts and crafts and food and stuff, right?

Now, what about raising kids?  Do we really have a manual for this?  You can always heed your own mom’s advice or your friends’ advice…perhaps even use a trick or two from those reality shows.  But kids are simply unique – that I’m pretty sure about.  You can’t force them to fit into a certain mold.  You have to be open with different parenting style that will work best for your child.

Sure, you wanted your son or daughter to be super behaved, well-mannered and all that, but barking orders every couple of second is not an assurance that they will do what they’re being told.

You may say that you want to be the cool mom and just let them do whatever they want – give them the freedom to become who they are.  Sure, that’s cool, too.  But that could get tricky as well.  For one, they’re kids, they need rules, in as much as they think otherwise – they want rules.

At the end of the day we want nothing but the best for them.  We’re ultimately the ones to decide if our parenting style is working for their own good (and not just so we could project an image of some sort).

I say, a super mom needs to be okay with changes, with variations and with a little experimentation as well when it comes to child rearing.  A super mom is willing to accept when something is not working for the child – even if it does make you look so cool.  After all, mother knows best, right? Hmmm, let’s just say, we all try to know what’s best and we try to give it our best.

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Job: Professional MOM

Does your merit of being a super mom lessens because you’re not working aka ‘stay at home mom’?  Of course not!!!  People have different opinions about being a stay at home mom – there are even those who would question the difficulty of staying at home when you’re literally ‘just’ at home?  Well, let’s just say, they simply don’t know what they’re talking about.  They probably should try it and themselves and then perhaps then they’ll be more considerate next time.

Being a SAHM is no joke.  There are those who simply knew that they wanted to do it, be a SAHM.  Then there are those that under some circumstances would have to become one.  Then there are still those who feel like there are really no other choices.  Granted, whatever your case may be – being a SAHM is not a walk in the park.  It’s hard, yes, but it’s very rewarding as well.

You earned your right to be called the super mom if you can truly embrace being a SAHM – forget the haters, I’m pretty sure they have their own issues themselves, lol!

You’re a WAHM, are you a super mom then?

Of course, we also have the ‘work at home moms,’ mothers who can still balance house chores, child rearing and working.  That will be pretty awesome if you can truly manage all these.  But let’s not forget about the reality that sometimes, it may be true that you’re working at home but you’re mind isn’t really at home.

There are WAHMs who are so absorbed and stressed out with their work that they have completely forgotten the whole idea of working at home is to be actually ‘home’ with the kids. It’s very tricky right?  You might think you’re a super mom since after all you’re working at home – well, not quite the case when you’re merely using your home as an office.  Especially when you started seeing your kids as housemates who pretty much fend for themselves while you work, work, and work some more.

Again, to become a super mom, you have to be open with changes – be willing to work a ‘workable’ schedule that will suit your being a mother and being a working mom.  You have to persevere – it may seem hard or uncomfortable or impossible but nevertheless, try.  You have to be resilient – bad days will happen, sometimes more often than we would expect it, but then again shake it off and move on – just keep pushing, keep trying.

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What’s Up With Working Online?

It’s not surprising now a days to find stay at home moms that are choosing to work as well, hence, work at home moms.  Whether it’s to augment the family’s income or to boost confidence and personal development, I personally think it’s a great way to make motherhood even more interesting.

Putting the welfare of the children and of the family is of course always the priority.  But it doesn’t mean that we should let the opportunity to grow pass us by because we’re so focused at being a mom and a wife.

It does help tremendously to accomplish something – help with the family’s finances or affect changes to other people’s lives or even professional growth – to feel validation that you can be more than what you’ve previously thought you can be.

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Why more and more WAHM are online?

Why, basically because technology is becoming more and more accessible and the internet world, undeniably, is here to stay.  Opportunities are being presented in a way that makes online job and or online business a possibility and a doable venture that even stay at home moms can invest into.

Contrary to what we used to think about working online – that only computer savvy people or those who are very well verse about computers can actually work online – today, if you have a computer and an internet connection, you’re off to a good start.

The computer and the internet is only your tools to actually work ‘on line’ but the skills you have – writing, organizing, designing, marketing, etc –  is still what you basically offers.  For instance, you’re good at writing.  You can then look for people who needs help with writing articles or perhaps reviews and offer them your services.  There are lots of freelancing sites where you can create your account and look for every job imaginable.

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You can also keep in touch with your passion, say baking or crafts, and then market it online.  Social media, Facebook, Tweeter, Tumblr, etc. is one of the most effective ways to get your stuff out there.  You can start website or blogs and really develop an online presence for your chosen passion.

Now, you may say you’re not into that kind of stuff – you don’t bake, you’re not exactly crafty and you’re not good at writing.  No worries, because you can always try affiliate marketing.  With affiliate marketing, you are basically the bridge between the costumers and the product and or services.  You provide the link to people where they can get what they’re looking for and you then get paid for affecting such a sale.  Internet marketing may sound very complicated at first, but trust me, it’s something that you can really learn even by yourself (well, of course with the help of web research).

How much money are we talking about?

Well, it depends really on how much time are you willing to invest and which online business are you going for.  Just like any businesses, success varies.  If you really put your mind into it, work hard, invest time and even money,working online can be a good source of income.

Working online is quite perfect for stay at home moms because quite frankly, they don’t have to literally leave the house.  So, it’s a perfect way to still be the stay at home mom – always there for the kids – and earn extra money for the family as well.

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How to Overcome the Challenges of Working from Home

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Working from home certainly has its perks but don’t mistake it as a walk in the park (Rest assured though that it can be a meaningful and enjoyable walk in the park if you really love what you’re doing).  There will be times when you feel that it has become very tedious on your part, you feel a little burnt out, things seems at a standstill or you simply feel like you’re not up to doing anything.

There are ways on how to overcome these challenges, that’s one of the advantages of working from home, you can simply address the issue whichever or however way you want to.  Don’t get too carried away though, you may have the freedom to do as you please, but there are ways on how to deal with these challenges in a more productive way.

Re-assess your work load.

The beauty of working from home is that you have the flexibility to readjust your schedule every now and then.  If specific tasks are becoming tedious for you at the moment, try to re-assess which tasks can you hold off for a while, say delay it for a day or two.

For instance, it’s ideal that you create fresh blog posts every so often, but in reality there will be days when you are simply not up to sharing anything really.  So the best thing to do is to postpone it until an inspiration kicks in rather than spend a considerable amount of time staring blankly on your computer.

You can also outsource some of the work to relieve you of the heavy load – which oftentimes is the main reason for people working from home to wear out easily.  You can outweigh the pros and cons of delegating specific tasks to other people compare to forcing yourself to do too much work load.

You can even be more productive this way.  Let’s say, you can accept a lot more project or deal with other business venture if you can free some of your time by outsourcing.  You can invest all your creativity and energy figuring out something new rather than drowning yourself with tons of paper or data entry works.

Have a break, have a KitKat…or Twinkies…or S’mores…or what have you

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Accept the fact that there will be days when you can work straight for more than 8 hours a day with gusto and then there will be days as well when an hour on the computer is such a drag.

Again, the beauty of working from home is that you can simply accept that fact and enjoy your down time instead.

This can be a good time to actually have a break:

  • Eat out or invade your kitchen to cook – even if you don’t know how to cook.
  • Take a walk – take a long walk.
  • Watch a movie – perhaps a movie marathon.
  • Use your bath tub – have a bubble bath with essential oils, candles and the works!
  • Listen to your favorite songs – better yet dance to your favorite songs.

Simply put – take a breather.  Working for long hours on the computer everyday can take its toll on you, both physically and mentally.  Sitting still for long hours staring on your computer screen can eventually wear you out.  The key here is to rest your brain and start moving your body, so, have a break!

Remind yourself why you’re working from home.

You ultimately decide to work at home, that means you really want this – probably even more than other people who are also choosing to work from home.

It all comes to managing your time effectively and being responsible.  Don’t abuse the freedom to ‘do as you wish’ to procrastinate on things you should be doing, that way you avoid overworking yourself.

Respect your working schedule.

It’s amazing enough that you can fix your own schedule, when to work, when to not work – having said that, stick to it to make sure you don’t cram in the end or worst miss deadlines.  Remember that just like any ‘real’ job, it also takes dedication to ensure success in working from home.

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To Work or Not To Work – Deciding to be a SAHM

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I have heard of stories about mom eventually deciding to be a SAHM (Stay at Home Mom) for practical reasons – like for instance, even if she is working, her salary may just be enough to pay the day care bills.  Point taken, but the thing is, would have she left the workforce by choice?

Then there are those who felt obliged to become a SAHM because they feel guilty that other people will be raising their kids.  But to be honest, of course, you’ll be raising your kids – you will need the help (either a nanny or day care centers or your mom or your in-laws) but you will be raising your own kids.

Although it’s very understandable for working moms to miss this point because they are so occupied with their career or exhausted from working that by the time their turn with the kids comes, all they wanted to do is glue them in front of the TV or put them to bed.  Hence, they feel like they couldn’t do both and opt to be a stay at home – even if they originally wanted to be the working girl.

A mother ‘stuck’ at home

The problem with the situations mentioned above is that, eventually the child or the kids are left with a mom that is depressed, frustrated and uninspired.  I guess the whole point of being with the kids –raising them yourself, nurturing them – has taken a different turn.

The child or children would likely develop emotional or psychological problems – feeling unworthy or undeserving or feel like they are a nuisance that is causing their mother’s heartbreak.  And no children should be made to feel that way.

A mother could easily feel stuck at home – taking care of the kids and managing the house.  Feeling small about the fact that she’s no longer the working woman she used to be and left with the ‘mundane’ task that she felt she’s over qualified to do.

Of course, there’s nothing mundane about being a SAHM.  It is also called work – a 24/7 work…without a salary – because it’s priceless!  So, being a stay at home mom is nothing short of being noble.

Again, it’s understandable why SAHMs are feeling the opposite.  The society has different notions about SAHMs in general.  And peers are not making it any easier.  Hence, more of the pressure is coming from outside factors.  It’s not even a question of whether you would like to raise your kids or not.  Of course you would like to do that, but, there’s always a ‘but’ somewhere there.

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How blogging helps a SAHM

If one ultimately decides to be a stay at home mom it has to be because that is where her innermost dreams and hopes and passions lie.  Otherwise, she has to muster the strength to decide to continue working and leave the child to a day care, to a nanny or a sitter.

The reality though is that it’s NOT an easy decision to make.  It’s not exactly a ‘yes or no’ option.

The good thing is that technology has made it possible for SAHMs of today to have a platform where they can use not just for hobby or to release the tension and bottled-up emotions but also to revive their other passions in life.

Blogging provides a SAHM the platform where she can share her passions to other people – either if it’s about the career she used to have – teacher, nurse, realtor, and others, or it’s about that one thing that she has always dreamed about – being a green activist, improving cupcake recipes, creating awareness about organic food for example or humane treatment of animals, the list could go on and on.

Suffice to say that blogging is empowering SAHMs!

It’s been said time and again that journaling helps our personal development, and blogging can be your own take at journaling – and more!

In blogging, you can affect other people’s lives by serving as an inspiration or a motivation.  You can also turn blogging into a business to give you that extra income that you can contribute to your family’s finances or to start your own charity works.

The possibilities are endless, and the best part of it all is that through blogging you can survive being a stay at home mom – a SAHM that is fulfilled, dignified and happy.


To work or not to work

There is no definite answer to this; it will always come down to what you want.  Of course the children are the priority, but it’s the very reason why it has to come down to YOU, you have to know where your innermost dreams and hopes and passions lie.

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